I wish you happiness and good health and a wealthy love life full of all the endless positive possibilities for your sake! Emotional immaturity usually isn't obvious right away "Emotionally stunted" guys are adult men who for some reason never matured emotionally A man needs to be secure with himself before he can. The scene marks Emmett as a beau worth having. Thank you for your comments on what she should do when her boyfriend doesnt stand up for her, Valerie! It wasn't until he looked through my cell phone that he accepted it. He is allowing his friends to mistreat you. If you ever bother to read the whole thing, that is. I think nobody is as bad as this. At the end of the day only he can take responsibility for himself. Everybody knows its innapropriate, but hes going to let it slide, because he thinks that dealing with and confronting his dad about this, will make it worse. Example: Fatherinlaw walks in, sees you, says; Ah, you brought your cleaninglady after which he loudly laughs and walks off again. I told him about this in a sort of, "This is really annoying me at the moment" sense and said that "it'd be nice to sit down and chat to him tomorrow, since we've both got free time". Be honest with yourself. If nothing changed, would you be able to move forward in healthy ways? He's been trained to do so, and treat it as normal. While this can be a helpful resource for some, others are using these platforms to self-diagnose and potentially harm their mental health. Ive studied it extensively Take my advice end it while you still have your sanity and youth. You have your whole life ahead of you. The kissing a girl at a party was annot so fun incident. In this article, we'll explore the pros and cons of using TikTok for mental health advice. But if someone repeats the same behavior without being willing to work on it, it may be a sign that you're incompatible, especially if lack of loyalty is a deal-breaker [for you]. I'm getting to the point where I want to get off the phone with him as fast as possible when he calls, because it's either to be upset at me, or to explain what his day was likewhich results in conversations based around "I went shopping, then I had lunch, then I played a board game with my family, then I had dinner" (etc. INeedHelp Im at my wits end and dont know what to do anymore. Their relationships are established, and extremely difficult to change. About me. He can't stand up for himself, he just closes up and does nothing. Now, most relationships dont form over the course of a murder trial, sure, but the premise holds: In order for a relationship to be healthy, couples need a foundation of mutual trust, respect, and support. We will reach out when we're ready to talk again. honey you need to be friends with me. It seems to me that he just wants constant attention from you. And your both feeling more supportedmore "known"by the other, can make a major difference in restoring the lost intimacy between you. And his response to that was, characteristically: Nothing. "They might be extremely averse to conflict. It might sound like an obvious question to ask, but answering this is going to significantly impact your next move. I was so upset and hurt cause easter was next day and planned him being with me then take him to his mom. I tried to talk to him about it but it never ever went anywhere. I never did anything to her to hate me and i dont know wat to do. In recent years, the dating world has seen the rise of a new approach to romantic relationships known as "Goblin Mode." Feeling down or depressed is a common experience for many people at some point in their lives. this brings the question, WHY his friends said those stuff bout you, it means your boyfriend shared his doubts with them and in order to see your reaction, he just said his friends said so, so he wont need to defend himself because he thinks that way. He will not defend me even if he was paid high dollar to. Very similar to mine. How to Let Go, 5 Ways to Respond When Your Boyfriend Stops Texting, Practical Examples of Gary Chapman's Love Languages. For your own good girl. you are so right. Maybe he enjoys your company, even if you fight all the time. Me and my boyfriend has been together a little over a year and weve been through everything together. Definitions of different types of love, for couples and singles. So what happens when your partner doesnt defend you? Our issue isnt kids, its where to live. I know I should end it but I feel stuck. Having someone who is willing to fight for you, metaphorically speaking, increases feelings of love and security in a relationship.". Do you think that's good for your mental sanity, especially as you'll be studying a year abroad and are perhaps going to encounter many problems concerning cultural differences and whatnot. A week ago we got into to a fight while he was at work and he was talking to one of his friends about me and how I was making him mad and stuff. Imagine having to go through THAT everyday. In recent years, there has been a growing need for safer opioid alternatives. Of course, he doesn't have to be TOO optimistic, because that can become annoying or even dangerous in situations like "Hmmm out of condoms. It just hurts, because we are both seniors and just want acceptance. You have to ask yourself if that's truly a relationship you want to be a part of.". Its really hard to break up with someone you love (or even like a lot). Also sister told him she better never see his cwr at my house ever again. If your boyfriend, one of his friends, or his family is bullying, ignoring or being rude to you and if theyre energized by their own actions then they may be toxic. But in the event an argument gets heated and disrespect is thrown around, it's important that your partner has your back, even if that means standing up to their friends and family. Experts say: No, you don't need to like your girlfriend's family. How to identify and fix relationship issues. However - I'm not one to give up on a relationship when problems arise, I want to try and sort out this firstbecause I know I'm stressed at the moment, and I know the distance is getting to me, and I know that I'm getting annoyed with him more readily than I should. Instead of offering any support, any comfort, any suggestions; I was instead treated to about half an hour of silence because he thought that I was inferring that he doesn't contact me enough. We're just starting a year of long distance, and I'm very dubious about it working out right now. His mom alway call him to go visit her dont get me wrong it ok but all the time tho ??? I dont know how but she does. Hes very supportive in some things ..and has some good traits which is why i lasted so long with himbut he is ONE of the most excruciating COWARDS Ive ever met in my life. Thank you for your comments; Im sorry to hear your widowed boyfriends adult married child doesnt accept you. Lives with his mom still. This doesnt mean youre helplessit just means you have stepped into relationship patterns that you cant change. I'm not,however, in any way, implying your bf is as bad as this. All I can say is I wish I could tell all the people who are just starting to date to ask the loaded questions right at the beginning. He might just be a pussy that doesnt want to get into trouble for you. Hes supportive and kindand he probably doesnt know what to do. Both mom and sister came to my home trying to take him from me but he stayed with me i was so proud he didnt let them control him. We are working on our 2nd year being together. I am open to moving to where he wants in the future under different circumstances but its clear that still isnt good enough because he wants me to say that I will do what he wants right now regardless of all of my concerns about and my personal goals and wishes. Is it possible for you and your boyfriend to have a happy, healthy relationship? Kelly1988 tldr; My boyfriend wont stand up for himself against his mom and its ruining the relationship for me, New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. I am also afraid that if he wont stand up to his sister for me, then he will never stand up for me to anyone. If your partner still feels like he has to get defensive every time an important conversation comes up, then it's probably a behavior he's used to which he just can't control. It's troublesome for both the sufferer and the poor individual who loves them so much. My bf will do the same thing! I would tell him to call you back when he is ready to talk, say goodbye and hang up. Help for marriage problems, for couples who are recently or forever married. Hes always worried about what I do, and not how i am feeling or what theyre doing. Others party and rage, or try to prove themselves at work. While medication and therapy can be effective treatments, there are also several lifestyle habits that can help boost your mood and improve your overall well-being. The goal here, is he needs to be able to assert himself, and to be free to choose. My partner just moved recently next to his mate whichis very controlling and very opinionated. Maybe he doesnt. Maybe your boyfriends mom is judgmental, his sister cold, or his friends rude. But it does involve offering support and listening to your partner's perspective on the situation." Dont expect him to know how to defend or protect you if you yourself dont even know what you want him to do. Then you may have need to deal with your own confidence or self-esteem issues. Dating advice for women and men, plus tips for love relationships. He has a I definitely tainted family, who may very well be dangerous, psychotic and, controlling, passive aggressive and really vindictive. When a man really loves a woman, she is the only one for him and it would never cross his mind to look at other women if he truly loved you. Three relationship experts share tips for navigating the sticky situation. But just the other night he told me that we will get through this-weve hit a snag, but well get through it somehow. It sounds cliche, but communication really is key. Thankfully, my boyfriend isn't that bad. And the worst part was that I was always in a bad mood because of him(I don't know if you've also reached this state yet). I constantly have to protect myself AND HIM I tried talking to him many times but to no avail. what do I do? "Hannah's boyfriend has . "The four horsemen are defensiveness . Calling me names and he also told her how i just came up and told her were i hide my car. You stood up for yourself, and you told him what you really think and feel. If not, press the 'off' button on your phone and do something more productive. I can tell you from personal exp Continue Reading 155 2 5 Sajeev Rajan Participant. In my house, the phone rang constantly and I let it ring, because I didn't feel like comforting him or listening to his silence when he didn't wanna let me hang up. He's a lovely, generous, friendly guy. I've explained to him before that even just changing the subject to something more upbeat is better than saying nothing at all. He told me I was hurting his feelings by things I had said, I apologized and we were able to move on and I learned. He's the kind of guy whose answer to "What do you want to do tonight/where do you want to have dinner/what film shall we put on" is always, "I don't mind, you decide.". So they hate me now. For example my future ex-BF(the one I'm thinking about dumping because of his general knowledge issue) has truly saved my life in this department. Ive never met his parents or been to his house but hes met my entire family and they already treat him like part of our family. He said it's a phase of mineit went on for 1.5 years. It's a deliberate decision to act that way, so the consequences aren't anything you're inflicting on him. Its an overlooked moment because it seems obvious: Emmett would always stand up for Elle. If you can accept that your boyfriend doesnt stand up for you, you might be happier in your relationship with him. Be really careful with that guy. Frankly he does not sound emotionally healthy enough to have a successful relationship. Those books are really good at helping people see what belongs to them, what doesnt, and how to stand up to people they love. Good for you. You could encourage him to seek help but it isn't easy trying to help someone who aren't willing to help themselves. Amica Graber, relationship expert for the background-checking site TruthFinder. prettybarbie She throws low blows all the time and my boyfriend ignores it. This morning, we had a conversation to follow up from the previous one, where his response to my laying out the problems was, "I'll try.". KerrianAugust 24, 2010 in Relationship Advice. You can't lecture or nag your boyfriend to change, and you can't pray your problems away. Then another time went to his sister kid graduation party. When I asked why he didnt stick up for me he said it was just easier that way I didnt want to argue with him but if I say one bad thing about his friend I get yelled at. Do you really care what his friends think of you? I told him why didnt you stick up for me with your friends and he said does it matter to me. As for sticking up that should be part of the growing process to be reassured that this guy isnt a wimp or the gal is going to flake on him. They're growing up! How do you respond when your boyfriend lets his family, friends or coworkers walk all over you? You love your boyfriend, but how can you be with a guy who cant or wont defend you? I get upset so often that Im getting to the point where I dont feel like being affectionate anymore or texting. Cookie Notice But everyone treats me like crap. Distract yourself with something you enjoy . To be more precise, it's convenient for him to keep you around. As social media continues to grow in popularity, more and more people are turning to platforms like TikTok for mental health advice. Avoid asking your spouse to address his family's bad behavior. He's a lovely guy, and when there aren't problems, everything is great. Just stay away from him. I explained that if a long distance relationship is going to work, then we need to sort through problems when they come up, and I can't support myself and him at the same time. I really admire the fact that you don't give up on a relationship when things get rough. Enjoy your relationship, but be secure on your own. Then it was all about me "begging him" for forgiveness - which I had no intention of doing. Thank you for sharing your story; it sounds like youre really struggling with your boyfriends inability to stand up for you. It is impossible to change the dynamics once they are set. Its not a fair religion. A partner should be encouraging, should build your confidence, and push you to believe in yourself. He refuses to stand up for me and I hate not being included in his life, he wants to chat to me all the time but thats not a proper relationship to me. He told me he really didnt care what they where saying about but some if it he listened to them about me. 7 Reasons for Relationship Failure, He Cheated on You, But You Cant Stop Loving Him, 8 Ways to Rebuild Trust in Your Husband After Infidelity, Can You Live With a Husband You Dont Trust? You cant change your boyfriend, but you can change how you respond when he doesnt stand up for you. If not, then you get to decide if that's good enough for you. Well, I'm feeling optimistic today. He feels vulnerable. You cant lecture or nag your boyfriend to change, and you cant pray your problems away. And today, I snapped - and that's exactly what I said to him. I think today was the first time I've been actually entirely non sugar-coated with what I have to say to him, and I'm hoping that when we talk about it tomorrow, he'll actually have something to say about itbut who knows. Who knows, maybe if you talk more, he'll come around. And, Im sure the poor guy has to deal with all the drama and deceit about his own family (over money) EW!!! He's an opinionated, intelligent guy. One thing that keeps going through my mind is something my boyfriend told me over a year ago about how his son needed to be on board with us before we can move forward. To view the purposes they believe they have legitimate interest for, or to object to this data processing use the vendor list link below. And im worried maybe she threatened him he wont get any if he dont stay away from me. Do you deserve this unsolicited scrutiny from his inner circle? I said that if he's just going to sit on the other end of the line in complete silence for hours every single time, then I might as well talk my problems over with myself, because that's essentially what I'm doing. Signs your relationship is over, plus help deciding how to move on after a breakup. When to Walk Away will teach you how to learn the difference between difficult people and toxic people, find refuge in God when you feel under attack, discern when to walk away from a toxic situation, keep a tender heart even in unhealthy relationships, and grow your inner strength and invest in reliable people. It's not worth being stressed all the time. How do you know the difference between a toxic person and an ignorant person? ", No one wants to feel abandoned by their partner during a difficult situation, and creating trust comes from proving, time and again, that you'll defend and support each other, no matter the situation. It would give about as much emotional support as my boyfriend. Why wait it out 'with' him when that takes up your time? jwrunner81 IF YOU DO DECIDE TO STAY, youve been warned by their behavior already (red flag), his behavior (major red flag), and greed from his family about whats to come when mummy dies (wtf RED FLAGS). However, maybe he behaves this way because he is depressed. He knows they don't approve of you and he doesn't have the power to stand up for you and himself to his parents. We need to stop worrying about the unhealthy fallout of unhealthy people who are challenged by healthy decisions. Be clear how you what you want your boyfriend to stand up for you. The other reason can be that he is uncomfortable with his family/has learned never to question his family and has a difficulty standing up for you, because of that. Started February 13, By If your boyfriend cant give you what you need (if he cant or wont stand up for you), then you have a decision to make: should you stay with him and accept him exactly the way he is right now, or do you take a deep breath and consider your other options? If his so called friend starts to influence your fiances opinions and attitudes towards you Im in this story right now than your relationship will deteriorate. (this sounds awfully familiar to your post). Been dating my bf for 6 yrs now hes 54 yrs old. The relationship dynamics can change, but change requires willingness and self-awareness. He never sticks up for me and never has my back for nothing! You might say something like, I feel unappreciated, worthless, defeated, and worried for our relationship when your sister/mother/friend treats me like that. We and our partners use cookies to Store and/or access information on a device. Then, Id decide if this is the type of relationship I want to have with my boyfriend. I would really like some advice on what to do or how to speak to him about these problems. I had never in my whole life been hurt like that and it was very hurtful and I got to thinking that if he cant stand up at some point in time for me , then he never will. I know it will always haunt me but I dont have a choice, Im as good as married as it is, just the paperwork is all thats missingso Im just venting. I dont want ANY of there money. Started Thursday at 07:54 PM, By Is his or her feelings such a barrier to your relationship that it cant progress any further? 11. "If someone can't support you during an external conflict, they probably aren't going to support you in any other areas of your future, such as your career or having a family, Graber adds. Forget religion, some Muslims even go as far as only marrying within their sub-ethnicity (for example a Pakistani wont tend to marry a Bangladeshi, and an Afghan wont marry a Pakistani their parents wont bless the union, and the men are so spineless they wont go against their parents wishes) so I cant stress enough for you to be careful that this guy is not just stringing you along, until his parents set him up with some chick). Ive told him several times that it hurts me that we cant do things as a normal couple, he always has to hide the fact that hes with me and it really causes me a lot of pain in the relationship. I ended up cheating on him because even though I told him I no longer loved him and I wanted to be apart he STILL denied it. Number 1- you teach people how to treat you, and that sets the foundation for your relationship forever. Does your partner want you to leave the room with them if things get heated? Answer (1 of 45): Confidence is up to you to create for yourself. Many happy couples build healthy relationships outside of their family of origin. Like us, they are also engaged. Relationships have two people in them, and when I ring him to talk with him, it's intended to be just that: talking WITH him, not talking at him. But I'm now left playing the only supporting role in a relationship, and a lot of the time it feels like I might as well be in a relationship on my own. It's for 2 reasons. I only get to see him once a week, sometimes less. If he does, great. What he says to me is that he doesn't say anything because "he can't think of anything to say.". However, if you can, consider the position your spouse is in. Help for healthy relationships for women and men, on a popular love blog. Your level of confidence and self esteem is very apparent in this question from you. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. They might feel disloyal by voicing support for you. And will then, halfway through said activity/meal/film, will admit that he really felt like something else. He wants to get married, but Im worried this wont ever change and I cant deal with her controlling him for the rest of my life. That is exactly what we should do when our boyfriends dont stand up for us. God only knows why you have spent all that time coaxing him out of one of his silences. She should tell him what s bothering her. "Life will always throw challenges at you, and being able to manage the small ones will help prepare you for the big ones. Here are 9 signs that you should keep swiping. He doesn't make a sound . Worse is that your boyfriend doesnt stand up for you, and I suspect there isnt anything you can do to change your boyfriends childs mind or opinion about you. Girl.. Good luck. I want to say this .. His entire attitude towards any sort of negative emotion or situation is very immature. I love him to death !!! Why is it that when I call him and explain that I'm upset and stressed, the conversation winds up with him on the other end of the phone nearly in tears, and me supporting him? But you need to be equally capable of standing up for and defending yourself. Started Saturday at 12:43 AM, By She puts relationship on hold. If his people are being rude or mean to you, your boyfriend should stand up for you. Im not steering you away or trying to talk you out of being with this guy But the big red flags are flyn EVERYWHERE. Sorry for this late response, what has gone with your relationship in the meantime? "We Do Not Own The Rights To Any of The. No it doesn't make a relationship work on its own. 3. He says he feels rude and awkward refusing to buy their crap. I really do love him and miss him very much. It can feel like a never-ending cycle of disappointment and rejection, leaving you wondering if you'll ever find a meaningful connection. Some pull back and hide, some flee and seek experiences. Focus on changing the only person you have control over: you. His late wife wanted him to move on & be happy. I hate that everything is according to mommy. Similar to respect, you'll find true love if your partner makes you feel valued. And why are you dating my ex? I dated a guy like this for 5 years. Good job, you dont deserve to be treated that way. Keep standing firm until he gets the message. Are You Jealous When Your Boyfriend Talks to His Ex? I really understand your situation. Learn how to respond to a boyfriend who doesnt defend or stand up for you. And he was standing behind me with his hands on my hips as we watched the band. His dad is a nice man until he starts drinking then its like he turns into the devil and thinks everything he says and thinks is always right. You can only accomplish these goals by telling your partner. I have often cried myself to sleep because of her. He cant get certain apps, watch certain television shows, or play certain games because she says so. That presumably will . My widowed boyfriends adult married child is not accepting me. And he does not stand up for you, not even thn. Why does he do it to me but not her? Tips on how to deal with a break up and move on with your life. STAY. This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies. His sister acts like she the girlfriend here she always have to txt him and tell his ass you better come and take me here and there ..? What should I do Im so upset about the whole situation I love him so much I feel like I cant let him go even at the thought of us breaking up it brings me to tears and makes me feel sick. I have tried to tell my fiance that i feel offended but he just doesnt listen. The only risk here is him interpreting it like an attempt of yours to change him and then taking his efforts to comply to your wishes way to seriously(while simultaneously begrudging you for asking it of him). A partner can do this in a multitude of ways, whether it's committing to a weekly . Being around him is never fun. You can't force your boyfriend to stand up for you, or guilt him into protecting you. WrittenInTheStars Started November 20, 2022, By I have to say though, he does a good job of getting you to make all the effort. Im with him because hes a great guy in every other aspect. 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